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You Are Lovable at Any Size

This post is inspired by the latest promotional ads for the 2012 Biggest Loser which are trying to sell you, me and the world the concept that for any person to be deserving of love – ‘ready for love’ – they must lose weight and be thin. They’re wrong. You can love yourself and be loved at any size. Any.

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Listen Up Beautiful You

I’ve got something to say.

It’s important and I need you to read it, hear it and let it morph into your soul. Really, really, morph.

You are beautiful and divine just as you are.

You do not need to take up less space in this world. Your fat, curvaceous, tall, big, broad, voluptuous, curvy, adipose, magnificent self can take up all the space you deem you so require.

What shape or size you are has nothing to do with how lovable you are.

To be ready for any form of love you want or need you do not need to diet or whittle yourself away.

The love you are and the love you are attracting or not attracting in your life is not related to your shape or size. It’s all what’s happening in the space between your ears. Truth. Own it and work on it if you need to. Do it for you. Beautiful You.

Don’t let anyone or anything attempt to convince you that you will never meet the man or woman of your dreams unless you meet a strict media driven requirement of being thin, perky, shiny and thin.

Get ready to move on if you think for one moment that there are not people out there having mind blowing, outrageously good and hot physical intimacy and sex. They are. They really, really are.

Untangle yourself from any notion, noggin, thought or entire belief system that the reason you aren’t lovable or beautiful or attractive or sexy or desirable is because of your shape or size. I don’t need to see you to know this.

Move on gorgeous one. Move on from any thought or any belief that you have to be smaller, thinner, less than you are right now to feel and know and have the love you deserve. Give that love to yourself and watch others illuminate from your example.

Give that love to yourself and see a world of love open up to you.

Tagged as: Diet, Fat Acceptance, Intimacy, Love, Media, Romantic Love, Self Love, Sex, Shape, Size, The Biggest Loser, Thin, Thin Ideal, Weight

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The Mindlessness of ‘Skinny Fat’

They say that that you never stop learning throughout life (thank goodness, as I now realise how little I knew when I graduated), and therefore I suppose that I should be glad that I learned something new last week. It has come with very mixed feelings however.

Good feelings on the one hand that I have been made aware. Not so good from the perspective that I don’t at all like what I learned about.

I was contacted early last week by a newspaper to make a comment about the term ‘skinny fat.’ I was completely taken off guard as I had never heard the term before. The journalist was great in giving me some leads and time to investigate further without pressuring me to give a quote immediately. I guess I was not surprised to uncover something less than desirable.

I learned that ‘skinny fat’ refers to someone who is thin, but due to lacking muscle tone and/or having a high body fat percentage is actually fat. Hence, they are both skinny and fat or ‘skinny fat.’ Who knew you could be both at the same time? Confusing and strange isn’t it. Imagine how young people must process this when the term is being used to describe celebrities such as Lindsay Lohan, Paris Hilton and Toby Maguire, all of whom have a young, impressionable following.

It’s not surprising to learn that this ridiculous term is quite subjective and appears to have a number of people claiming that they really know what it means. The Urban Dictionary defines ‘skinny fat’ in no less than 5 different ways (seems they can’t make up their mind) and this is one of my favorites – skinny fat is “when someone is thin and looks great in clothes, but is all flabby underneath.” Delightful.

Who knew the English language was desperately missing such a term. There are others who are attempting to claim the term in the health space. Natasha Turner, ND, rightly states that “there is a difference between being thin and being healthy,” however is it really necessary for her article to be titled “Are You a Skinny, Fat Person?” I don’t think it is.

This shows to me that this term serves no genuine health or medical purpose and is simply another phrase that has been coined in populist culture to belittle, bully amd badger either ourselves or other people’s bodies. This new phrase has also taught me that we seem to sadly have an insatiable appetite for destructive and negative language when it comes to describing our bodies, appearance, weight and shape. Let’s hope it just a language blip and it soon disappears from all vocabularly’s all together.

Tagged as: Appearance, Body Bullying, Body Fat, Fat, Health, Language, Lindsay Lohan, Paris Hilton, Shape, Skinny Fat, Thin, Toby Maguire, Weight