This post is inspired by the latest promotional ads for the 2012 Biggest Loser which are trying to sell you, me and the world the concept that for any person to be deserving of love – ‘ready for love’ – they must lose weight and be thin. They’re wrong. You can love yourself and be loved at any size. Any.
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Listen Up Beautiful You
I’ve got something to say.
It’s important and I need you to read it, hear it and let it morph into your soul. Really, really, morph.
You are beautiful and divine just as you are.
You do not need to take up less space in this world. Your fat, curvaceous, tall, big, broad, voluptuous, curvy, adipose, magnificent self can take up all the space you deem you so require.
What shape or size you are has nothing to do with how lovable you are.
To be ready for any form of love you want or need you do not need to diet or whittle yourself away.
The love you are and the love you are attracting or not attracting in your life is not related to your shape or size. It’s all what’s happening in the space between your ears. Truth. Own it and work on it if you need to. Do it for you. Beautiful You.
Don’t let anyone or anything attempt to convince you that you will never meet the man or woman of your dreams unless you meet a strict media driven requirement of being thin, perky, shiny and thin.
Get ready to move on if you think for one moment that there are not people out there having mind blowing, outrageously good and hot physical intimacy and sex. They are. They really, really are.
Untangle yourself from any notion, noggin, thought or entire belief system that the reason you aren’t lovable or beautiful or attractive or sexy or desirable is because of your shape or size. I don’t need to see you to know this.
Move on gorgeous one. Move on from any thought or any belief that you have to be smaller, thinner, less than you are right now to feel and know and have the love you deserve. Give that love to yourself and watch others illuminate from your example.
Give that love to yourself and see a world of love open up to you.
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Julie this post has come at a very interesting time. Just today I posted on my own blog about how I feel I need to lose weight before I will find that special someone, before I will find anyone to even be interested in me. I guess deep down I know what you’re saying is true… but life and the world around me don’t seem to agree.
If you are interested to read my post you can do so here: http://www.amandafullerblog.com/2012/01/single-situation.html
Hi Amanda – I am always amazed at how things find us in life right when we need them to and maybe that is the case with you finding this blog post today. It sounds like you are on a path of real self discovery and I will certainly pop over and read your blog post.
You know, I have been working on that space between my ears for a few months…the distance from my head to my heart seems like the largest space in the universe. But I am working on it. Thank you, thank you, thank you. Right now, I think I need to take up a little more space….
Brava to you Jamie. The fact you even know it is your thinking and that special ‘ear between’ space that needs working on makes you well ahead of many in the pack! Keep working…
Amen! I love your words and am trying my best to feel that way every day. Most days I am successful but some days not so much. My focus this year is on being more active and healthy, not thin or on a diet. I am feel so much better for doing so. N x
Keep at it Naomi. Not every day will feel brilliant or ‘perfect’ but the more you focus on health rather than what you look like the better things will be for you. It’s the feelings inside that really count.
Julie, I found your blog when I had just left treatment for an eating disorder. I love the beautiful and inspiring things you write. Thank you for being a voice that helped me find love for myself.
In appreciation of how you’ve touched my life, I’ve nominated you for the Liebster Blog Award. To see more about that, visit my blog at http://stillme-thejourney.blogspot.com/2012/01/liebster-blog-award.html
How lovely Jen – thank you for the award. Your blog is lovely and congratulations on your continuing journey to recovery. I’m so glad that you have found Beautiful You helpful.
I struggle every day with a feeling that I need to lose more weight. All my life, no matter how much I have lost it is never enough in my mind. Thank you for this inspiring and uplifting post, and for reminding me to love myself as I am!
Thanks for your comment Chelsea. I’m really glad that the reminder has reached you. Do keep up with the thinking and knowing that you are worthy of love right now, just as you are.
Wow….thank you so so much. I am also reblogging this to share. It’s so beautiful, and should be obvious, but there are many of us who don’t allow ourselves to believe it.
So thank you, for making it so simple and so honest. And so true!!!
So glad you liked it Erin – I certainly meant every word and thank you also for sharing.
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